Cancer Diagnosis Could Be a Wake-Up Call - Time to Reflect on Choices

Dear Patient Diagnosed with Cancer:
I went through my first cancer scare in my early twenties, and I am now 43. I learned to ask myself, "What am I getting that I like?" (What will it take to do more of that?). What am I getting that I don't like? (What will it take to do a whole bunch less of that?). What do I want or need that I haven't gotten, yet? (What do I need to do to begin moving toward that?).
I left the man I was with, and began to live a different kind of life. In my early thirties, I had another flare up of irregular cells, and asked those three questions, again. It was clear to me that my own anger at not standing up for what I thought was right, and tolerating way too much that I knew wasn't right, were eating me alive from the inside. I've lived 20 years beyond the first scare, and haven't had a PAP yet this year, but expect everything will be fine. I had to embrace my irregular cells with love and establish communication with them so that I was able to hear what they had to say about their reasons for preparing me to check out.
Once I heard the messages of my body, I was able to take a more appropriate way out of the existing situations. The diagnosis was a wake up call for me. If I weren't going to do the best things for myself and get out of difficult situations, my body would take care of getting my soul out of here.
I have a husband in my life now who loves me and tells me I am magnificent - way better than the relationships of the past that wanted to crush me down into a role of obedient female. I had to learn to put aside shame, guilt, sadness, sorrow, pain, fear, anger, numbness, and indecision. Life is so short. I had to learn to savor every bit of life, because each day might be my last. So when I have to pick between the pleasures and pains of life, I do my best to pick the pleasures - those things I'd rather do, instead of things other people think I'm good at, but don't provide me personal satisfaction.
Perhaps you want to ask that part of you what purpose it serves at this time. Perhaps you want to ask the diagnosis what purpose it serves at this time. Then ask if there is a different way to serve that purpose, and if the unconscious and conscious minds would be willing to learn something from that, something new, something different, so that you can let go of that now and live a healthy rewarding life . . .
Yours truly, Monica, Key West, FL
Ms. Geers is an IMDHA Approved School Owner email: Gammot@aol.com